Change in Person or Vision

This blog is an outcome of few of my Conversations over a period of time. A common statement which we often hear from people who have been in any kind of relation with a person for a long period of time is that “the person has changed or is changing”. While this statements looks very disheartening and puts the blame on other person involved here but one prospective to this statement is, are you sure if your vision is still the same? What is it that attracts us towards any person, her/his first impression, the attitude that person carries and thought process the person lives with. Over a period of time when we start living day in and out with the same person or end up spending more time with the same person our inquisitive self, demands for more and we start making deep analysis of that persons behavior and habits. Though the person is fundamentally still the same but we divert our vision from her/his positives to the improvement areas, I am not blaming anyone us for this attitude because it comes naturally to every human, but how we put it across the other person defines the future of our relationship. The moment we start giving feedback in a manner that makes the other person feel we are expecting him/her to change for us we start creating difficulties for the other person to accept feedback positively.

The best way in which you can help yourself and the other person is by keeping their positives in mind and motivating them to increase the same rather than start pointing out the improvement areas in a manner that makes them feel little. Before making a strong statement saying the other person has changed please do a self-analysis and check is your vision still the same?

Manisha Dawar