Did you be a right choice

Sometimes I feel things were a little simpler in terms of marriages in older days. Your parents would decide your match on basis of the families, would meet your to be spouse ask few questions and decide on his or her thought process consider the upbringing and the kind of family background and take it ahead. When you had no scope of getting involved at least you were clear at your expectation settings and there was no need of any one to modify things and put a false self in front of the other person to create impression.

I don't really know as to how many of you have hidden your negatives from your partner in initial stages till the time you got hooked up wondering that you might probably lose a good match. If any of you have ever done that or ever want to do so understand, that you are cheating on yourself before cheating others, because its you who is going to suffer when your partner would suddenly not know how to react to your different attitude or a side of you that she/he  has never seen. You would solely be responsible for the change that you would see in your relationship and the other person. Most important factor for any relationship to work is that you have expressed all your emotions and thoughts good bad whatever they are right at the beginning and without any manipulations. A person who truly wants to live with you would accept your positives and learn to handle your negatives as well. He/she would teach you to strengthen your positives and break the negatives. Do yourself a favor by being honest and displaying your true self, for it will help you chose the right person in life.

Manisha Dawar