Difference in opinions

A conversation often leads to argument when there is a disagreement or difference of opinions In thought processes, but what really ruins it further is the perception of other being wrong and we being right. It takes us just a minute to blame others for the discomfort that is created between two people but it takes some willingness and wisdom to understand what the other person is trying to tell and accept the difference of opinion. Second factor that effects healthy conversations is assumptions, when we start deciding for others and analyze situations as per our thought process and put it across as other person’s thought. So what is the way out to deal with such situations?

I am not sure of how effective it is for you and not certain that your ego wouldn’t come your way while following this method, but the best way out to have control over discussions that involve difference of opinion  is to empathize and listen carefully to other person, try to understand what actually is causing the stress and work on the weak point that exists and not on illusionary thoughts. If need be apologize but while you do so always remember that Sorry is not just a word and has no value if it’s being used for same mistakes that are repetitive, while you may be apologized once for unintentional mistake but not for your carelessness.

Last but not the least always expect what you can follow and have been following and not what you feel is correct and should be followed by others.

Manisha Dawar