Expectation Settings

At one point or the other we all agree that keeping expectations from others results into dis satisfaction at times and there by resulting into many other negative thoughts. When we are badly hurt we May also come to the thought of not having any expectations from others but sub consciously be still end up having expectations. it is probably a natural cycle for normal humans and it’s difficult to break it or have a brake on it. Other truth of life is that 99.99 % or May be a larger number of 9 post decimal of us are just average human beings who are emotional and find it difficult to handle them, and let me tell you the most practical of people on earth also have expectations, so you ain't doing anything wrong at any point of time.

Next question that arise here is that when we know the problem and solution and yet we fail to implement it, then what’s next? do we keep hurting our selves? do we keep generating negative thoughts or waste our energies in this never ending process. Of course not. we just need to be a little more practical and careful while practicing this habit of ours. These are the possible solutions that I can think of. please add more to them that you think are possible.

• While setting expectations from others analyse the potential of the person from whom you are expecting.
• Develop an understanding to situation before you set expectations.
• Don't just expect everything from others, your contribution plays an important role.
• You can't expect from everyone under the sun, so have clear thought about such people in your mind.
• Most importantly expect only what you can do for others. which means while you define your expectation for any particular person you need to be sure that if you had been at that persons place you could have done the same.
• Last but not the least no one is liable to fulfill your expectations, define a clear line between responsibilities and expectations, hence never blame others for not fulfilling your expectations.

Remember its always important to express. be clear in your thought process and have clear and specific communications.

All the best. do let me know if this blog was of any assistance to you.

Manisha Dawar,