Forgiveness is a trait of wise

We have been discussing various scenarios of how we grow up in life and how we can become wiser over a period of time. One important factor that decides are level of maturity and open mindedness is forgiveness and letting go of things, for what you are upset about and  just stretching the issue to increase discomfort in personal system has actually passed by and is past, nothing of it can be changed now. So what is it that we can expect from ourselves when we say that we should learn to forgive? Does this mean we become ignorant to things, or does this mean that we let other person perform same mistakes again and we stop reacting.

First step to forgiveness is to accept that the deed has already been performed and nothing can be changed now. Second step lies in your mind and is dependent on your thought process towards the situation, it’s you who’s reaction would choose how big or small the act was and how it is going to impact your life. Third step of course is how you make the person acknowledge his or her own mistake and bring across his/her deed as act of learning and not make him feel guilty about, for all of us are humans and have limited vision which is further effected by external situations like our state of mind at the time of occurrence of situation, circumstances we were in, were we carrying any back log or not etc.

A wise person analyses situations when he is neutral and understands constraints of other people and lives with the fact that none of us is perfect but all we can do is to choose to move  on the path of perfection and be open minded.

Manisha Dawar