It is all in your head

How many times have you heard people say, “it is all in your head”? Many a times, right! So have I, however I could no strongly accept the statement and its power until today. Lessons that we learn from an incident can be different for each one of us, as we all perceive things differently and have our own observation skills, we barely realize when our care for our loved ones turns into being overly protective and in some cases, being possessive. To let the other person grow and live their challenges is love and care in true sense. Right support is to assist and stand alongside, and not to do tasks for someone, unless situation demands so.

 Parenting/mentoring especially is not about protecting your child /mentee from all the trouble, but it is to guide them to learn how to fight the challenge. It is just not about celebrating success but more about enjoying the learnings from failure and get back to business, it is the right, balance of holding hands and know when exactly to let go. 

When you face a challenge, your state of mind has the power to make it bigger than what it is, or motivate you enough to handle it with ease. It is only when you start believing in this truth that you start realizing that your thoughts are the fuel to mind that would release output as per the supply. If you really want to live life, you should start living like your child/niece/nephew and let that innocence and curiosity be alive for as long as you can. Also learn not to pressurize them with the competition outside, because their real competitor and motivator is right inside them in the form of who they are. The best gift you can give to anyone is that of confidence and inspiration, it is one gift that you receive more in return when you pass it on.

Manisha Dawar