Live by yourself
We must have often heard people talking about certain set of people who say that this wo(man) is a gem of a person he/she lives for others, he is selfless. We often end up believing this and feel really proud of that person and give examples of him/her to others. Over a period of time and with what I have analyzed in life I found out that there is actually no one who lives for others, I understand it is a very strong statement to make and half of you would actually be calling me foolish for this, but if you look at a larger picture of events of life you would understand what I am saying. The right statement that defines any of the strongest people is that person lives by herself / himself. We all are selfish creatures and relate our motives as a sacrifice or deed to various people in our life, and this mostly happens when we are not strong enough to take decisions in life and stand by ourselves and do justice to our own decisions, when we are scared of our own decisions.
Let’s start from the most classic and common example, all of us have best friends and in order to maintain our friendship and prove its value we put the best of efforts to retain it. In this effort what do we actually do? Do we become selfless and do all we can, for our friend. Or do we do only that which gives us satisfaction? Of course we do only what gives us satisfaction and in this desire we keep prioritizing the important people in our lives while we take our decisions. Some time we make parents our excuses, sometimes our sibling/friends/life partner/colleagues/strangers. At each point of time we only do what makes us happiest the most and gives us satisfaction, but we relate our motives to any of these people as a support system for us. While doing so we often don’t realize that most of us are not even strong enough to stand by our own decisions and keep our words. We become a moral less person and find excuse for every failure.
Next time when you actually want to say someone that you are doing a particular thing for someone else in life, please just be fair and honest to yourself that all you are doing is for self-satisfaction, you may fool the world today but would you be able to sleep with yourself tonight? It takes you to be a man of will power to stand by your own self “come what may”, forget about standing by others.
Manisha Dawar