Redefine expectations

A conversation with my loved one becomes the inspiration for today’s blog. It was a simple question,” did you not expect this”? I had expected a simple yes or no, but the reply that came was, I don’t expect anything that causes inconvenience to anyone. My reply in return was simple, it was never an inconvenience, I said to myself, “I knew it was just my self-satisfaction”. We often say that we shouldn’t keep expectations from people and also end up saying this when we get hurt, that we shouldn’t have expected it at very first place. I don’t remember being able to define expectations ever. If I think of defining them today it would just mean one thing, expectations is your wish spread on others that makes your life convenient.

Let’s look back to what our expectations have ever been? Were they all not for self-satisfaction or to make our lives convenient in one way or the other. I have nothing else to write for today and hence am leaving this blog here for you to decide what do we actually look for from others and why? And how can we bound others on our wishes? Doesn’t everyone have the right to live life their own way? I know what’s going in your mind, “is it wrong to expect from your loved ones?” No it is not, for it is your mutual consent and satisfaction that you provide to each other that makes the expectation setting comfortable and necessary. It is wrong to bound others in your expectations without their consent, it is wrong to build expectation on your own and blame others to not meet them.

MANISHA DAWAR