Silent Murderer

Each one of us have a silent murderer in us, shocked to know it? Well some of us must have identified it at various times but may have chosen to ignore it, its negative thought process. I too realized it many a times until today when I pledged to actually work on it for it might create adverse effects on my loved ones. Before I talk more about it I would like to narrate two incidents here; first; in a conversation with one of my relatives I realized the  person expressed fear of little ones getting hurt and the person being very possessive of not letting the child go near sharp edges of furniture, near glass table and ensuring that the door is left closed always and many such things that are a regular routine to any household.  Second incident I observe myself getting into panic situation very often when my loved ones don’t respond to messages or call for long intervals and then fear starts ruling my mind followed by the nuclear chain of thoughts which ain’t always positive or to be honest mostly negative. I am sure all of us face these situations in life but how we deal with them depends on our control over our mind. While some of us are good at switching over others can’t really be calm always, but the idea is to work on improvement once we have analyzed the pain area.

To begin with let me tell you that its ok to get worried, for you get worried only for whom you care and care comes naturally for person whom you love and with love always comes the fear that is resultant of endearments. So let me congratulate you to have loved ones and being surrounded with them.

Now looking into the improvement area, they say that our biggest fears come true because we keep thinking of them and hence the law od attraction works that way additionally it is also analyzed that our thought process makes our tomorrow, hence next time when you start getting worried, question yourself. “do you really want to be in that illusionary situation that is occurring in your mind?” once you have decided and you know you don’t want to be there, gently ask your mind to shut up and start concentrating on something that gives you happiness or at least helps you calm down. Next have control over web of negativity and break it with positive thoughts it would take some efforts initially but once you have broken that chain of negativity it would calm you down. Steps of improvement would remain incomplete without expressing your thoughts and discussing what actually was the trigger point of the situation hence remember to discuss it with the concerned person and while you do so remember to be calm and discuss only when you feel you have reached a phase were you are open to healthy discussion and acceptance of feedback.

Manisha Dawar