Who Decides Right or Wrong ?
Very often we come up with quick conclusions and define things or situations as right or wrong, these decisions are mostly taken in haste and are an outcome of something that doesn’t match your thought process. I too faced one such situation today, this was related to one of the family matters and though I completely understood the situation but yet with my own logical reasoning and comments to support my thought process I came to a decision that the step taken by one of the members was wrong, hence at that moment I also decided that I would speak on it later but not now as this was not the right time to discuss situations and I didn’t want to increase stress for anyone in family. Even though I got support of few of my family members on my thought process, after an hour or so of deciding to be alone I re analyzed the situation and found that a decision taken by second person which seemed so wrong to me didn’t even mean wrong to him.
Then I thought Is there any definition to right and wrong? Are they any scenarios that make a particular situation/decision right or wrong? Can you ever define rules for analyzing situations? NO we can’t, then how do we become so judgmental and put our point across saying that we are right and the other person is wrong.
Do we always give ourselves time enough to reach to a neutral phase and then reanalyze situation by empathizing with the other person. Once we learn the art of increasing gap between occurrence of situations and instant reactions we would be wise enough to understand that each person takes the best decision according to her/his own thought process and limited vision and open mindedness. It is equally important for each one us to respect others decision for while we may think that a particular decision has adversely affected you but it is our personal responsibility to choose our battles and let or not let any decision effect us.
When we seldom question our own decisions we don’t carry the right to question others decision.
Manisha Dawar