Break-up; Who to be blamed
A news that commonly flaunts around with matrimony is the divorce rate and the increase in them, people say that we have adopted this from western culture as well, while all of us like to be a part of these gossips how many of us have really analyzed situations here in India? How many of us have truly tried to find out a solution for selves forget about others. Many of us like to be part of the gossip actively or at-least try to know what went wrong in the other person’s life while we hardly are interested as to what are we doing in our lives.
They are many things that we have adopted form western culture in terms of relationships, public display of affection has become common, relationships are openly displayed, made and broken. Live-in relationships are catching numbers, but have we actually become open minded? Or have we just become less patient, with open options available and the communication circle getting shorter we have stopped analyzing our relationships and the positives of it. Our patience level is so low that we can’t accept even one negativity of our partner but easily forget our own drawbacks. It takes few days to propose the person of opposite gender and just a message over phone to break it in one go, where is the value of emotions, where is humanity gone? There is no one else but only you who is responsible for all failures in relationships because you just want everything perfect and a smooth ride but the truth is that life was never meant to be smooth and you can’t always get all that you desire. When we know that our life is built on the choice of our selection of one over the other then how can we achieve it all. So why keeping such expectations from your partner when you yourself are not perfect. Today girls have stopped adjusting or I would re-phrase it, they have stopped taking any ones non sense, because they are equally educated and independent in India. So when they have reached the level of man, it’s only fair for all to understand the truth that there is actually no division of responsibilities at work and home, both are equally responsible for the financial and emotional needs. The only way out of this crisis is to treat each other equal and value each other as self. You may very well find someone else soon, but you would lose the other person even sooner because you have not changed your attitude and way of living life, there is never anything wrong in the other person, it’s always your understanding and level of acceptance that creates difference, if each one of us starts self-introspection, relationships would blossom and emotions would be respected.
All I want to say is, treat each other as human and equal. The bond of love builds on mutual investments of faith, care and respect and are subject to risk of your attitude. Get it right !!.
Manisha Dawar